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My Practice:

I enjoy working with couples and also with individuals. I have spent extensive experience working with men, and also with adolescents and young adults. I am myself a military veteran, and have a deep understanding of military culture, including the effects of combat-related trauma, which is helpful in working with combat veterans seeking help with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Addiction Recovery – One of my areas of specialty is addiction recovery. I am passionate about supporting others in their journey to heal from chemical dependency and substance abuse, as well as other addictions, such as gambling, sex and pornography addiction, etc. I have worked in various addiction treatment environments, using various interventions. Many on the path of recovery have been frustrated by traditional 12 step approaches, and have struggled to find suitable options. My experience working in structured addiction treatment programs is that there is no one correct way to recover from chemical dependency. However, there are some key features associated with successful recovery that cannot be ignored, faked, or attained via shortcut; A restoration of balance, well-being, personal integrity, and life’s purpose are all necessary facets of a potent post-addiction lifestyle, and therapy can support you in your journey toward developing these.

Men’s Issues – I also specialize in men’s issues. I have spent considerable time learning about specific challenges relating to / affecting men in American culture. One problem that has been receiving lots of attention these days is the epidemic of suicide and overall declining health and happiness of American middle-aged men. As decades of shifting gender roles, family structures, and career paths have unfolded, many men across recent generations have been deeply impacted in their ability to make sense of their identity and inner world. Men have increasingly become socially isolated, disconnected from their emotions and their sense of purpose. It is possible with the right support, to formulate a modern mature masculinity that is built on balance; A balance of strength with vulnerability that facilitates integrity, authentic living, and bold action, while prioritizing love over competition. For several years, I have been dedicated to my own journey of reformulating the rigid, emotionally stunted “John Wayne” masculinity modeled to me by my father’s era. To that end, I spent many of those years involved in the local men’s group community, engaged in structured and non-structured personal growth activities, and eventually serving in leadership and facilitator roles at various gatherings and weekend retreats.

Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction – I have spent several years practicing meditation, yoga, and mindfulness in my personal life, and I have had the opportunity to spend many weeks in silent residential retreat, while working closely with meditation teachers in various Buddhist traditions, including the Theravadan (Thai Forest) Tradition. I have also received extensive training specific to MBSR ( Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction) developed by Dr. John Kabatt-Zinn and University of Massachusetts Medical School. I frequently apply specific techniques related to Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction in my therapy practice, and MBSR is very effective in facilitating trauma recovery and addressing symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Multi-Cultural Awareness: This is a challenging time in the United States for various social groups. As a long-time social activist, I have spent years learning about and advocating for the most vulnerable members of my community. I am sensitive and welcoming to the needs of the LGBTQ community, and clients who identify as LGBTQ. Also, as a Latino therapist and the son of immigrants, I feel well qualified to share the unique perspective of therapy clients who identify as persons of color or were not born in the United States.

Note: I am an apprentice registered with CASOMB, certified to work with clients addressing various issues related to sex and porn addiction. This area constitutes a major part of my practice.

 

 

 

 

 

Q How Does Therapy Work?

You are looking at this website because something is causing discomfort in your life. It may be an addiction or trauma, or it may be any multitude of losses, life changes, or trouble adjusting to those changes. You may come to therapy with a quiet longing to expand more fully into your life and achieve your highest potential. Life can be seen as an ever-unfolding journey of discovery, personal growth, joy, and loving; or life can be experienced as a long series of disappointments, a roller-coaster ride of challenges, an unending push to survive against insurmountable odds, with stolen moments of pleasure sprinkled in.

Therapy invites us to look deeper at the choices we make, the people and situations we are attracted to, and the experiences that have shaped our sense of self. The beliefs we have about our purpose and place in this world deeply impact the level of satisfaction that we receive from our lives.  We often discover in therapy that our connection to the instincts that guide us has been broken, clouded by fear, doubt, and self-limiting beliefs. Therapy can help us begin to clarify those instincts and trust them, as we revise our toxic beliefs about what we deserve and what we are capable of.

Therapy is NOT advice. Therapy is not instant relief or escape from the realities of our lives or a quick way to become happy. Therapy is a courageous step into the truth of who we are and what we need to heal our souls, make better choices, and achieve our greatest potential. In therapy we discover that we can indeed live a full and happy life, but no one is able to do the work for us.

As a therapist, I am here to facilitate your journey of personal discovery and support you as you revise your old stories, clarify your values and intentions, and repair your relationship with yourself (and by extension, with the world around you.) There is no guarantee that therapy will put an end to suffering in your life. There is potential for authentic living and genuine happiness, and the power to achieve that happiness is in your hands. I am here to help guide you toward accessing that power.

Q What Is Your Approach and Philosophy?

I feel humbled and incredibly privileged to walk with you on your journey. Thank you in advance for inviting me to do so.

Couples Therapy:

In my work with couples, I rely heavily on Emotion-Focused Therapy, or EFT. This therapeutic approach guides couples toward deeper connection and intimacy as a pathway to healing the relationship trauma and resulting discord and resentment that have developed over time. There are no guarantees when a couple begins therapy, and the reasons for entering couples therapy may be complex and deeply rooted. However, if both partners are truly committed to personal growth and behavioral change, then restoring and evolving their sense of safety, joy, and emotional bond over time will happen, and can lead to a level of relationship engagement and fulfillment not previously thought possible.

Individual Therapy:

In our work together, I will draw from a broad base of theories and orientations. We might be continually employing a Psychodynamic approach, exploring facets of your history and the stories you tell yourself about that history; There is significant value in understanding our family of origin, the magnitude of significant life events and how they have shaped you as a person. And, while understanding history is important, a Here-and-Now approach is where the rubber meets the road. Cognitive Behavioral, Family Systems, and Acceptance and Commitment therapies may be combined with Mindfulness exercises, homework, and your spiritual perspective to support your personal growth and behavior modification efforts. My training in Gestalt therapy has inspired my belief that personal growth is a holistic process of reconciling the many dynamic parts of who we are with what we are experiencing in the moment. This integrative approach is defined by considering how patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving are continuously revealed in the present, and considers every piece of our reality to be relevant and symbolic. Valuable information is gained by looking at how we are sleeping, eating, and spending our time – especially the strategies we use for coping with life and how we use language to describe our daily experiences (Neuro-linguistic Programming).

In fact, Neuro-linguistic Programming has a huge impact on our sense of well-being, as do the narratives (stories) we have embraced and the people that we allow into our lives. Just as we are what we eat, we also see ourselves and our values reflected back in the way we allow people to treat us, the way we spend our time, the goals that we set, etc. Do we have close friends? Is our employment work that is meaningful to us? Do we feel like an imposter in our own lives? Are we always just waiting for (or scouting out) our next crisis? Are we constantly rescuing others from their problems?

You can learn to understand the cause and effect in your life and how those patterns impact your wellness. The best way to change the way you feel is through some kind of action, and the more you understand about your feelings, the more effective action you can take.

Personal accountability is a huge factor in facilitating or preventing a lifestyle of authentic joy and fulfillment. How we operate in our relationships and community is often at the center of the difficulties we experience. Until we have clarity about our roles in the various systems around us (romantic partnership, family and social systems, occupational systems, cultural systems, to name a few) we cannot operate with genuine integrity and commitment to ourselves or those we love, which prevents us from experiencing wellness and balance in our lives. We may feel disengaged, depressed, or notice that we are caught in a cycle of self-sabotage. It is important to note that trauma and addiction can dramatically impact our ability to experience wellness until we become empowered by our healing process, offloading the shame that does not serve us and integrating the parts of ourselves that we had previously disowned or ignored.

Q What Can I Expect Once I've Started Therapy?

Therapy can feel very uncomfortable at times, especially in the beginning, as we sift through painful areas of our lives and confront ugly parts of our history and maybe some truth about ourselves or our relationships that we would rather ignore. Therapy can also cause the people in our lives to feel threatened by the changes we are making in our thinking and behaviors, and this end of “business as usual” may result in discomfort in our relationships with partners, family and friends. It is very common for us to decide that the distress means it is time to stop therapy and we may be skilled at finding many good reasons to do so. In fact, the opposite is typically true – When we feel discomfort in therapy, it means we are making contact with something important. The “medicine” is working, and we are not the same person we were before therapy. We may have become very good at avoiding difficult emotions, and suddenly, this strategy is no longer an attractive option. Clients are strongly encouraged to process with the therapist, any kind of feelings or thoughts related to quitting therapy before simply deciding to do so. There is almost always a benefit to this processing, even if the choice to stop therapy is made. Often, a valuable discovery happens that will yield big advances to the client or couple along their path of healing and personal growth.

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  • Monday08:00 AM - 07:00 PM
  • Tuesday08:00 AM - 07:00 PM
  • Wednesday08:00 AM - 07:00 PM
  • Thursday08:00 AM - 07:00 PM
  • Friday08:00 AM - 07:00 PM

Issues

  • Addiction & Substance Abuse
  • Anxiety
  • Chronic Illness
  • Codependency
  • Couples Therapy / Marriage Counseling
  • Depression
  • Grief and Loss
  • Life Transitions
  • PTSD and Trauma
  • Race Issues
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Spirituality
  • Stress Management
  • Teen Counseling
  • Veterans and Military

Languages

  • English

Insurance

  • No Insurance Accepted

Approach

  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
  • Art Therapy
  • Attachment Based Therapy
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
  • Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
  • Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
  • Existential Therapy
  • Family Systems Therapy
  • Gestalt Therapy
  • Humanistic Therapy
  • Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy
  • Motivational Interviewing
  • Narrative Therapy
  • Neuro-Linguistic Therapy
  • Person Centered Therapy
  • Positive Psychology
  • Psychodynamic Therapy
  • Relational Therapy
  • Solution Focused Therapy
  • Strength Based Therapy
  • Transpersonal Therapy
  • Trauma Focused Therapy